Relationship Combatibility Factors
Relationship and Marriage counseling can help you find out how in harmony you are.
The two most crucial factors that determine how similar you are as a couple are:
A similar degree of psychological vitality and maturity and a similar ranking of Instinctual Variants.
What are Instinctual Variants?
The 3 Instincts represent the natural energy or drive that are essentially part of us as humans. Our actions are highly engaged with and is often dependent on these libidinal, instinctual energies to give it its spark.
Self Preservation Instinct.
People of this Instinctual type are preoccupied with the essential existential needs as they translate into our contemporary society, for example, money, food, housing, health, safety and comfort.
Being secure and physically comfortable are essential, and they will often bring these supplies with them.
When entering a room, they will tend to notice lighting, uncomfortable seating, the room temperature, when the coffee break will be, and whether they will enjoy the food provided. They also tend to be the most practical in the sense of taking care of basic life necessities.
They are the most introverted of the types.
Sexual/ Intimate Instinct.
People of this type have a strong desire for severity of experience and intimacy. The blunt riveting gaze is the dead giveaway. When they enter a situation they automatically gravitate toward people they feel attracted to, as if they are looking for the juice. These people can be intimacy addicts, often ignoring pressing obligations or even basic hygiene if they are infatuated with something that has captivated them. This gives a wide ranging exploratory philosophy to life, but can also give a lack of focus on one’s own achievements.
Social Instinct.
People of this variation are focused on their interactions with others and with the sense of value and self esteem they derive from their involvement in collective activities. These include occupation, family, side activities and clubs.
On entering a room, these people would immediately be aware of the relationships and subtle politics between different people and social circles. They are subconsciously focused on other’s reaction to them, particularly about whether they are being accepted or not.
They need to touch base with others to feel secure, acknowledged and energised. They tend to love interacting with people, but they eschew intimacy.
They are the most extroverted of the types.
Within each person, one of these Instincts will dominate. In fact these three instincts can be ranked like the layers of a cake, with the most dominant one at the top. The least powerful one, at the bottom, is termed the blind spot.
These inherent instincts play an essential role in our relationships because personalities of the same type tend to share values and to understand each other completely, and therefore feel very compatible.
In relationships between 2 different Instinctual types, each will struggle to convert the other.
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