Relationship Combatibility Factors
Relationship and Marriage counseling can help you discover how suitable you are.
The two most important factors that determine how compatible you are as a couple are:
A similar level of psychological health and maturity and a similar ranking of Instinctual Variants.
What are Instinctual Variants?
The 3 Instincts represent the inherant energies or drives that are innately part of us as humans. Our actions are highly engaged with and often dependent on these libidinal, instinctual energies to give it its spark.
Self Preservation Instinct.
People of this Instinctual type are often with the basic survival needs as they translate into our modern society, for example, finance, food, housing, health, safety and comfort.
Being secure and physically comfortable are essential, and they will often bring these supplies with them.
When entering a room, they will tend to notice bad lighting, uncomfortable chairs, the room temperature, when the lunch break will be, and whether they will like the food provided. They also tend to be the most practical in the sense of taking care of pressing life necessities.
They are the most introverted of the types.
Sexual/ Intimate Instinct.
People of this kind have a intense desire for intensity of experience and affection. The honest riveting gaze is the dead giveaway. When they enter a situation they gravitate toward people they feel magnetized to, as if they are looking for the juice. These people can be intimacy addicts, often neglecting pressing matters or even basic maintenance if they are infatuated with something that has captivated them. This gives a expansive exploratory philosophy to life, but can also give a lack of focus of one’s own priorities.
Social Instinct.
People of this type are focused on their interactions with others and with the sense of value and esteem they derive from their involvement in collective activities. These include work, family, hobbies and clubs.
On entering a room, these people would immediately be aware of the power structures and subtle politics between different people and social circles. They are subconsciously attuned on other people’s reaction to them, particularly about whether they are being accepted or not.
They need to interact with others to feel secure, acknowledged and energised. They tend to enjoy interacting with others, but they eschew intimacy.
They are the most extroverted of the types.
Within each person, one of these three Instincts will dominate. In fact the three instincts can be ranked liked the sections of a cake, with the most dominant one at the top. The least powerful one, at the bottom, is termed the blind spot.
These inherent instincts play an important role in our relationships because people of the same type tend to share values and understand each other completely, and therefore feel very compatible.
In relationships between 2 different Instinctual types, each will struggle to convert the other.
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